Sometimes, when you are making new friends, it can feel like a courtship. You are not sure how to proceed, but you know there must be some steps you can take that will take your relationship to a deeper level. When you and your significant other are meeting a new couple for the first time, it might even feel like a first “date.”
When you use sites like Kupple.com to meet other couples like yourself, this is a common occurrence. It might even feel a bit strange at first – but you can get past that initial awkwardness if you have a few key ingredients: confidence in you and your partner, a healthy sense of humor and fun, and the knowledge you’re about to learn in this article. Hey, we have to get you read more some way, right?
Meeting a Couple is Like Meeting an Individual
First, you’ll be surprised at just how much meeting a new couple is like meeting a new individual. Many people who enter social situations with both people they know (their partner) and complete strangers will tend to congregate together. In essence, they form a cohesive unit. Have you ever approached a group of two or more strangers and noticed how they tend to greet you with one mood, one tone? That’s exactly what we’re talking about.
Keep this in mind, because winning over two people is more difficult if you don’t understand this simple principle. Don’t feel like you have to specially calibrate your own behaviors in order to conform to two different people you’re meeting. Simply remember that they’ll probably both like you if one of them likes you. It’s easier that way.
One caveat: don’t forget that a couple actually does comprise of two unique individuals. Don’t actually talk to two people like they’re one person. Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, despite the name “Brangelina,” would probably prefer if you acknowledged their individual identities.
Remember, You Can’t Win Them All Over
Just like in the dating world, you’ll probably come across couples that don’t mesh well with you at the basic level of chemistry. This doesn’t mean either of you are particularly bad couples – it just means that you aren’t a good match for each other. If couples really do act like individual entities, then “dating” other couples will probably remind you of what dating was like when you were single. You’ll simply not like certain couples, and certain couples won’t always like you.
If you avoid trying to “win” couples over and instead focus on being yourselves, you stand a far better chance of meeting a true match for your couple’s “type.” Stay relaxed, be sure to have fun, and you’ll be surprised at how much easier “hitting it off” really can be. If you have an innate desire to win everyone over, you’ll be too anxious, wondering which couples approve of your couple. Avoid that by being relaxed and letting the chips fall where they may. You’ll be glad you did.
- By Staff