How to Make Long Distance Relationships Work

By | April 5, 2012

The good news about the modern conveniences of travel and communication is that they have shrunk our world, making a long-distance relationship possible for anyone. The bad news? They’ve made a long-distance relationship possible for anyone.

As anyone who’s been in a long-distance relationship knows, they’re not easy. You get a few of the perks of being in a relationship, sure, except the actual presence and company of the person you love. In short, they can feel like torture. While video-conferencing software like Skype might help, the truth is that there’s no program short of a Star Trek-style teleportation device that will ever make long-distance relationships feel like the real thing.

But at, those types of odds aren’t enough to intimidate us. And we hope you feel the same. So here’s how to make the “LDR” work in the modern world.

See each other as much as possible. Seriously, it will help. In fact, when you count down to the next meeting the two of you will have in person, it can feel like counting down towards Christmas. Admittedly, this will be difficult. Airfare alone will mean you have to shell out big bucks just to get a glimpse of your significant other with your own eyes. But if the both of you focus on making plans to see each other, you’ll experience a lot of the joy that comes with it just by looking forward to it. That can’t be bad.

Don’t let the string get too loose.  What “string”? Consider it a metaphorical string, a sign of the “pull” you both feel for each other. If you let your relationship get too loose and too relaxed, you run the risk of drifting apart psychologically. If you can accept the fact that the distance between you both does not dictate the quality of your relationship, this should be no problem. But if you start letting the distance dictate how you both feel each other – and how “far” you feel from each other – then there are potential problems ahead.

Don’t let jealousy get in the way. When you’re far from each other, it’s easy to feel jealous. You might feel jealous of their friends, the people that get to spend more time with them. You might feel jealous even of their pets! But if you start feeling jealous, you lay the seeds for other harmful feelings that can manifest themselves and ultimately increase the tension between the two of you. And if there’s too much tension on the metaphorical string in your relationship, you know that it can snap.

Ultimately, the people who are most in control of whether or not you have a successful long distance relationship are you and your significant other. But if you’re determined not to let the circumstances of your relationship dictate the success of that relationship, you stand a solid chance of making it through the tough times until you can reunite. And in the end, all the work will be worth it.


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