The Dangers of Not Having Mutual Couple Friends – and How to Avoid Them

By | December 1, 2011

There’s a good chance that you can count the amount of couples you know on one finger. And when you take the time to consider how many couples you and your significant other both know, well…let’s just say that the number probably drops even further. Why is this? Aren’t human beings social creatures? Don’t we need companionship in the form of friends on a regular basis? Why are so many couples so dang shy?

If you were asking yourself these same questions, you’ve come to the right place. There are indeed dangers to not having mutual couple friends when you yourself belong to a couple – and these dangers can have a bigger impact on your social life than you ever considered. So let’s take a look at some of these dangers and, better yet, how to avoid them.

Everyone Needs a Solid Group

Put 50 strangers in a room and there’s a good chance they’ll eventually start to form groups – even if the groups are just two or three people who started small talk. It’s just part of our nature: we feel better when we’re in groups. We gravitate toward like-minded people. So if you’ve got a girlfriend or boyfriend – or husband or wife – and don’t have any other couples as friends, it might be a good time to ask yourself “why not”.

Having a solid group of like-minded friends is essential for a few things: first, of course, to have a social life. But it’s also important to have other couples as friends so that you can engage with others and reap all the benefits of friendship: advice, support, and a sense of belonging. Sometimes, having friends on your own just isn’t enough. Two people who come together in the form of a couple sometimes feel like a unit – and this unit needs friends, too!

Support, Support, Support

Having a lot of single friends – if you’re a couple – can feel quite alienating. You’re the only couple in your social group, so you don’t feel particularly welcome all the time. Maybe you get a few dirty stares if you decide to indulge in even the smallest amounts of PDA.

On the flip side, having other couples as friends can mean having friends who build you up rather than bring you down. They can offer advice, a friendly ear – whatever it takes to support you. When you, in return, support other couples, it can strengthen your own bond with your significant other. You’d be amazed at how quickly you can feel better about your social life when you help other people with theirs.

Take some time at and get to know other couples who might be a good match for you and your significant other. You’d be amazed at how different a friendship feels when you meet another couple as part of a couple yourselves. You’ll always want to keep great individual friends – but sometimes you just need a friend for each of you to avoid feeling like a third wheel.

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