How to Bring the Honeymoon Back Into Your Marriage

By | December 29, 2011

We’ve all been there: the infamous honeymoon phase. Heck, plenty of us have been on real, live honeymoons, as well. There’s a certain magic in the air whenever your relationship with your significant other is going especially well: it’s almost as if the rest of our lives are brighter because of how fulfilled we are on the romantic front.

But what do you do when you lose that special honeymoon flavor – and don’t want to lose the relationship? You inject a little honeymoon back into your daily lives, of course. It doesn’t have to cost you a zillion dollars and a week’s worth of unpaid vacation. All it requires is a little bit of creativity. Here’s how to do it.

Variety is the Spice of Life

What is it about honeymoons that we love so much? Okay, it’s not hard to figure out: we like exotic locations, we like not having to work, and we like getting intimate. It’s not exactly rocket science.

But if it’s been five, ten, or even twenty years since the honeymoon, you might wonder if it’s possible to get that same feeling from your regular routine.

The truth is that you can’t; you have to ditch the routine in favor of variety. While it’s easy to use a marriage as an excuse to settle into consistent habits and let your romance muscles atrophy, it’s never acceptable. You have to spice up your love life by providing the variety. And the more spontaneous you are about it, the better.

It doesn’t matter if you’re the husband or wife; it just matters that someone takes the initiative. Simply cooking a gourmet meal for your loved one on a random night can work wonders; you don’t have to force your spouse into taking a weekend trip they have no interest in.

Remember: it’s all about that honeymoon feeling, even if you’re not buying plane tickets any time soon.

How to Build the Honeymoon Back into the Routine

Let’s face it: most of our life is going to be a routine. Our careers, our jobs, our children – most of our time is going to be spent on some sort of schedule.

That doesn’t mean you have to be a slave to your schedule, or that the romance has to inevitably fall by the wayside.

Building a honeymoon back into your routine is as simple as being as spontaneous and fun as you were during the honeymoon phase of your relationship. Whenever you catch yourself taking the relationship for granted, try instead to focus on what you love about your spouse and think about ways you can do something great for them.

It doesn’t matter what it is, so long as your gesture is spontaneous and from the heart. Write a sonnet. Sing a song. Dance a dance – anything that gets you both laughing and reminding her – or him – why they fell in love with you is a good bet.

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One thought on “How to Bring the Honeymoon Back Into Your Marriage

  1. Ardy

    – Kylie, you know that we love to hear words like these! I still remember how ggligy you were during your engagement session with us, and how much fun it was. We knew from that very first session just how special our time with you guys was going to be. Jenni and I are incredibly honored to hear how your wedding book makes you FEEL. If it touches you in the same way that it touched us when we saw the photos, then we have reached our intended goal. We wanted to show in pictures just how lovely and how passionate a couple you and Scott are. His devotion to you is so plain to see. The honeymoon session we had with you guys on the Cape was such a fantastic experience! I wish we could do that again! Going there for those photos and working them into the design of your wedding book was definitely the way to go! A bride who pursues her DREAM for photos is the Perfect Bride to us.We just loved working with you guys. And we hope to hear from you again as your family grows. 01.31.08 10:25am


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