Men pride themselves on being logical, direct communicators. But if you’re married to one, you know just how enigmatic and confusing men can really be. Your husband might tell you one thing and mean another – not because he’s a bad communicator, but because he’s human.
If you want to listen better to your husband, it’s time to tune in to the way men communicate and see what he’s really saying. That’s why we’re offering this quick translation guide to the world of men. Here’s what he really means when he says…
“I Just Need Some ‘Me’ Time”
How many times have you heard this from your husband? While it might seem like your husband simply wants to check out of the relationship because of his disinterested, it’s important to realize that men might need “space” for different reasons. Some might legitimately want a moment to relax after a hard day’s work.
Here’s how to tell if his “me” time is really just a way of getting away from you: does he ultimately come back to you? If he’s capable of having his space and returning to your relationship fresh and recharged, you know he really meant it.
“You’re Much More Attractive than Her”
Every husband fears the dreaded question: his wife asking if another woman is more attractive. The truth is, men (even married men) will find a lot of women attractive. What they’re really saying in this instance is that you are indeed still attractive to them, and that they want you to be confident about yourself. Don’t read any more into it than that.
Yes, it will be tempting to know what your husband thinks about other women. But be wary of developing such a jealous personality that you border on the irrational – it’s not good for either of you.
“I’m Just Going for One Drink with the Guys”
As we saw before, men don’t always have quite the nesting instinct women have – it’s instinctual for a man to want to get away for a while, even if it’s for a drink with his friends, some of whom may still be single. A man who just wants to have one drink with the guys might be angling for more than just one drink, but that doesn’t mean he’s cheating on you – it might simply mean that he wants to spend quality time with old friends.
If your husband is trustworthy, a responsible drinker, and hasn’t seen his friends in a while, he might be exaggerating about the “one drink.” Maybe he’ll go for two or three. But that doesn’t mean he’s about to go on a bender, either.
If you want to know more about how men communicate, it’s important to think about things from their angle. But it’s also important to participate in the communication yourself – and you can start doing that at Kupple.com, where there’s plenty of opportunity to find other local couples and start improving your relationship with your own spouse.